On Being Enough

"It can feel like you will never be enough and, in many ways, you’re right. You won’t ever be enough if your enoughness lies in the hands of others. But, if you let yourself be enough now, in this moment, and you stop needing other people to affirm you, then you are free. When you take back the definitions and the labels and the little validations you seek on a daily basis, you realize you were imprisoned to other people’s definitions of you and having to continue to either live those up or down. And, when you realize that your happiness and peace of mind was in the hands of strangers and friends and family members and lovers, then you can begin to take it back, piece by piece, until you’re the only one in control of your happiness and peace of mind. That’s freedom. That’s ultimate freedom."- Jamie Varon